"A Look into the Mind of an Alienated Child" with Judith M. Pilla, PhD, LSW

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PASA-NJ (www.pasanj.org) Presents:

Dr. Judith M. Pilla, PhD, LSW,
"A Look into the Mind of The Alienated Child"

For more information and to RSVP please contact Anna at (862)206-0621 or parentalalienationnj@gmail.com

All targeted parents of alienated children ask certain questions over and over in the search for answers. One constant question is: "What is my child really thinking?" These children's attitudes and behaviors can be highly contradictory, painful and baffling, leaving you question their every response (or non-response).

To offer understanding, skills for relating, and some comfort for you as parents, Dr. Judith Pilla will explore how children “think” during the experience of an alienated lifestyle. This includes:

• How children experience the ongoing pressure of their situation
• How children develop their own internal logic to cope day-to-day
• How children adapt to an almost impossible set of demands and expectations from parents

You will learn:
• Key mental sets that children acquire to cope and how you can use these to guide your interactions
• Which responses “work” and which can “make things worse”
• How to create a basic set of relationship tools to rely on during difficult communications.


Dr. Pilla is a member of the international task force working to include PA/PAS as a diagnostic category in the DSM-5 and ICD-11. She also conducts research and publishes in the fields of parental alienation, psychiatry,and family relationship dynamics.

Dr. Judith M. Pilla, PhD, LSW, PMHCNS-BC, is principal of Health Bridge Associates, a private psychotherapy practice in King of Prussia, PA. For over 10 years she has worked intensively with victims of parental alienation, including targeted parents, extended family members, and children, adolescents, and adults who have been co-opted as alienators by one parent against the other. She focuses on the unique situation of each family, using phased treatment aimed at improving trust, connection and potential for recovery. Dr. Pilla is not a legal expert or evaluator. Her practice is limited to treating the mental, emotional, interpersonal and social consequences of parental alienation.

Dr. Pilla earned her PhD and MSS from Bryn Mawr College in clinical social work and social research, and her BSN from Thomas Jefferson University. She is a licensed psychotherapist; professional social worker; advanced practice clinical nurse specialist in psychiatry; and a targeted parent of two adult children. Her professional awards include the Rivitz Fellowship of Bryn Mawr College and charter membership in Sigma Theta Tau international honor society. She is on the Board of Directors of Pennsylvania Society for Clinical Social Work and a member of the American Psychiatric Nurses Association.

A suggested donation of $5 is requested.

**I have personally met with Dr. Judith Pilla multiple times and have had the pleasure of attending her captivating presentation in Pennsylvania. I highly recommend bringing family members, friends, any anyone who is concerned about an Alienated child. Dr. Pilla's presentation is one of the most insightful, educational, fascinating, compassionate and inspiring discussions about Alienated Children I have been to yet; she truly understands the Alienated Child. -Anna Tivade **

Daniel Holmes November 04, 2012 at 01:56 PM
Dr. Pilla has an amazing insight on this topic and I highly recommend that anyone who is affected by Parental Alienation should attend this event if at all possible... I would also highly recommend that you don't just attend this event, also bring along a friend or family member that is not familiar with the topic of parental alienation, that way you can not only gain insight for yourself, but also help someone else to become better educated. Daniel Holmes PAAO USA Vise President
Cindy Smith November 04, 2012 at 03:11 PM
Please invite school counselors, community health counselors, TV reporters, news paper reporters, coaches..... Thanks everyone for helping to educate and bring awareness to this form of emotional abuse.
Karr Marie November 04, 2012 at 07:39 PM
I live in Northern CA and cannot possibly attend. Will this event be taped and subsequently available to purchase on DVD? I am the targeted parent of a now 30 year old daughter. The alienation (basically) began when she was 10. Rather that was the last time that I had any real and substantial contact with my daughter. As with all of the other targeted parents it's been a very difficult journey and I am certain that I have made errors along the way. The greatest difficulty is "knowing" what is "right" or the correct way to go about developing a relationship with my child. I have no idea how to proceed from here as nothing I have tried has worked. THANK YOU for your hard work and I wish you continued success.
Fiona Blane November 18, 2012 at 03:25 AM
I am in Sydney Austalia so would love to be able to purchase a DVD. I have established a mums support group which meets weekly supported by an established charity called Dads in Distress. March 2011 my daughter then 14 & son 13 went to live with their dad. Within a few months they were cut off & no longer see either side of their family or any friends they have grown up with since their dad left at 3 and 2. I strongly encouraged their relationship with their dad as they deserve & have the right to spend time with both parents. My daughter is now 16 & son 15. I have custody but that means nothing they are too old & they say they want to live with their dad. All forms of communication were cut off last May & the schools cannot get involved. I go to award nights & parent teacher but kids totally ignore me, my daughter even asked me to leave & never attend again. I just said calmly I am your mum, I love you & will continue to attend. Heartbreaking. I wonder constantly what they are thinking and how they are feeling. I am not angry with them or their behaviours as they are just kids & it is not their fault. It is not natural for a child to just want to stop all contact. This is child abuse. I worry how they will ever have healthy, trusting relationships. Does it hurt them being denied the love & knowing their parent. I love them unconditionally & will be here for them whenever they seek me out. I want to help others identify signs to avoid becoming totally estranged.
Melinda Louise Baxter December 25, 2012 at 01:31 AM
I want/need help. My daughter is 6 yr.and was wrongfully removed from me. And has been manipulated by dad, the alienating parents her whole life. I believe there is hope if I nip it in the bud now. Community and justice system are enabling him. I live in prison within my own body on a daily basis. Thank you for your offer, I too want to help/educate others. First I must help my young daughter. I do hope to hear from you.


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